The Sensualist View
A preview from my upcoming book
This is the Prologue for my book, which just became available for pre-order, and it officially goes live on December 9th.
The prologue is called ‘The Sensualist View’ because it is the Darshan (“The View” / sacred seeing / being in presence of the divine) for the book. In Tantra, it is vital that we have the philosophical overview to go along with our practice. Just learning techniques for pleasure and transformation alone is not enough, there must be an aligned perspective and higher philosophy to align ‘the work’ to.
If you’re newer to nondual/yogic philosophy, perhaps you feel a resonance, but it feels a little foreign right now. Perhaps there are terms you don’t yet understand or perspectives that evoke curiosity but don’t quite land yet — that is what the rest of the 470+ page book explains and goes deeper into. For now, I invite you to read it with a sense of curiosity and openness, to feel into the current I’m pointing to, the potential of what this path and body of work can offer you.
What if lovemaking wasn’t just for the bedroom, but a moment-by-moment experience with your relationship to life and the divine?
What if life was making love to itself through you right now, as consciousness dances with matter in every breath?
What if the divine wasn’t like a distant parent, but an intimate lover who manifested you as an expression of itself, as a way to know itself – and your pure enjoyment and expressed passion was all it truly wanted from you?
Those sweet moments of pure electricity when a lover’s touch grazes across your skin, leaving you shivering and aching.
That pulsating aliveness when you’re lost in a sea of dancers, penetrated by the rhythm and united in your ecstasy.
The surrender as erotic touch brings you over the edge, and the whole world – even your body – dissolves into waves of vibrating pleasure and bliss.
The way that the aroma of a delicious flower penetrates you so fully that you could fall to your knees in enjoyment as your whole body and consciousness merge with the scent...
For too long, spiritual and religious traditions have labelled these moments as distractions, sinful, illusions. And perhaps they are illusionary like magic tricks – but this magic is drawing you into a gateway. This gateway can lead you from a state of separation and egoic delusion into unity with life itself. It’s the nectar of the Goddess, the sweet bliss of life — the felt experience of union.
And what if it was only a breath away at any moment?
What if just stretching out in your sheets in the morning, feeling the textures and sensations caressing your body, could fill you with such pleasure that you overflow with gratitude for this beautiful life before you’ve even gotten out of bed?
What if you discovered a whole universe within you – of tiny sensations, vibrations, and swirling vortexes of experience, dancing, morphing, and ever-changing in each moment?
What if only a few conscious breaths could crack you open and remind you that you’re a literal embodiment of divine love in an intimate love-affair with itself?
What if your sexual and intimate encounters became a playground of endless beauty, nourishment, and creative expression that kept you feeling passionate, engaged, and vital no matter how many years go by?
What if sex could be a portal – not just to better orgasms (though yes, those too) but to the dissolution of the boundary between self and other, matter and spirit, finite and infinite?
What if every sensation – pleasure and pain, expansion and contraction, bliss and grief – is the Divine tasting itself, knowing itself, delighting in the play of its own creativity?
This is what a deep sensual awakening can offer – and it’s available in each moment when we shift our paradigm and awaken to this reality.
Your body is not a machine to be controlled or a problem to be solved. It is a fractal hologram of the entire cosmos – infinite Consciousness contracting itself into this unique form, this specific constellation of sensation and awareness. Every breath a pulsation of Shakti, the creative power that animates all things. Every touch and sensation a form of intimacy with all that is.
You are not a skin-encapsulated ego trapped in matter. You are the universe experiencing itself from the unique perspective that can only come from you. You are the great mystery – choosing to know itself through the exquisite limitations of embodied existence. The warmth on your skin, the flutter in your belly, the ache in your chest: this is the divine, feeling what it’s like to be you, exploring it’s own self through your eyes and body-mind.
Like a lover studying every curve, every micro expression, and every moan – life is experiencing itself and making love to itself through you. The erotic tension of wanting and surrendering, the playful game of forgetting our divine essence and remembering again: all a great cosmic love affair. All the delicious drama on the universal stage of experience.
Through the gateway of our somatic reality, we can access the ground of being itself. When we bring our awareness toward our embodied experience, separation dissolves into the endless play of vibration and aliveness that is already around and through us. As we shift our awareness towards this field, life becomes more vibrant. We feel less isolated and more intimate with the world and others. We recognise – on an embodied level – the interconnected nature of all things. We experience nonduality not only as the spacious awareness but as the unified field of vibration.
We form an intimate and deep connection to the field of Shakti, and our senses become heightened and our intuition honed. We begin to feel not just the physical but also the subtle realms – the quality of love, sweetness, and beauty that surrounds us at all times, even through the pain and challenges life brings our way.
I sometimes like to think of the process of embodied awakening as moving from living in a binary, two-dimensional world to a vibrant fractal universe bathed in loving awareness. Things that once felt limited and confined become infinite and complex in ways that captivate us and bring us into a state of awe and wonder. From this place, we can become endlessly entertained and curiously captivated by each moment, no longer needing to seek more intense or complex external circumstances to feel alive and engaged.
We are in constant relationship with our body and the world around us. Is your relationship one of avoidance, mistrust, or separation? Or is it the devotional love affair of the century?
What if the path was not to pull away from these moments and detach from this relationship like an avoidant lover – but to become so deeply intimate with life that you come into erotic communion with each breath and touch?
This is the erotic mystic path, the path of the Sensualist.
A path that has weaved through generations of seekers, through countless lineages and cultures.
It’s a kinky love affair, one filled with thrills and pain and eternal change. It’s filled with the tension of limitation and sweet expansive moments of limitlessness. Instead of bypassing or shaming the human experience, we commit fully, devotionally, to immersing so deeply in our embodied experience that all sense of separation and isolation dissolve into the unified field of love and aliveness.
Letting go of the armour and control, softening into your place the web of life. Being willing to show up for love, as love, as a devotional spiritual practice.
We can find a kind of contentment and inner peace that doesn’t come from renouncing life but from a deep satisfaction in the simple pleasures of living and being in a body on this earth. Those who access this space often find themselves slowly weeding out the conditioned, compulsive need to achieve and accumulate in order to be happy. They realise that the more space and time they have to connect with life in the present moment, the more joy and bliss they experience.
Suddenly, chasing fame, status, and wild adventures becomes more of a distraction and hindrance than an ideal. A lot of egoic and trauma-based patterns begin to fall away, and a new kind of embodied freedom and bliss emerges. Suddenly, having space to just be and feel becomes most sacred.
Making love and becoming love as you crack open day by day. Being strong enough to become sensitive. Brave enough to be vulnerable. Passionate enough to find intimacy in the simplest moments of life. Pleasure becoming a sacramental offering. Your dance becoming a prayer. Your organic sounds a love song. Each beat of your heart a reminder of the love that you are. Each breath an invitation to the depths of who and what you are You offer your practice to the altar of love
Expressing your sensual artistry and infinite creative potential through each time you play, through every dance, each connection, each breath.
This is the path of the lover, the erotic mystic, the Goddess-worshipper and the Sensualist.
The path of Immersion, the path of Love.
Now let’s dive in and explore together.
Take a moment to feel what comes up after reading this. Feel into what your body and soul already remember, and any potential glimmer of what could be.
You can check out a little more about my book and how to order it here. You’ll see I have created a companion course with the recordings of all the embodiment practices that you can purchase to support your journey with the book.
This has been a HUGE project to create, and I’ve been doing it on a very small budget (Taking off a LOT of time from paid work to write and edit, as well as having a lot of health issues this year preventing me from doing much else!), so any support with sharing my book is hugely appreciated. The first month of sales is important for an author on the Amazon platform to get favoured by the algorithm. If you prefer to boycott Amazon (which I understand!) you can buy the e-book directly through me (I don’t do prints through me as I live in Thailand and managing all that postage and logistics is far too much, so I only do the print-on-demand option)